My thoughts

When I asked my nephew two years ago why he was being disruptive and not doing what he was told. His response to me was "I just want to be myself". I didn't understand his frustration with conformity and behaving the way we wanted him to behave. He was a child so he MUST listen and we are adults so we KNOW what we are talking about. I never understood what he felt and what torture he was going through until I had to experience it myself.  Moving into a new country has its downside. The culture is fixed, the people already know who they are and there is a general conformity that has been secured. I understood that I was prepared to be the outsider and stay true to myself. What I was not prepared for was the culture shift I would have to experience at the work place. I didn't think it would exist since I was working in the same company but that is what happened. People were not direct in their conversation and it became very frustrating trying to fit in. I then realized...

One of the things I knew about Melbourne was the temper tantrums it has and the unique way it expressed it through different weather outbursts every two hours. To be honest I loved it, when I was here for just two months. It was fun - or so I thought. People expressed their surprise to how calm the weather was but I paid them no attention, I thought it wasn't as bad as they had told me. Well, it is as bad as they said. The fact that the nice sunny vibe I hoped can evaporate the existential turmoil going on in my head is limited doesn't help. That harsh reality has taken me a few weeks to adjust and change tactics. Clearly, the city is as bored as I am changing weathers as a young girl trying to find the perfect outfit that expresses exactly how she feels. How do I feel about this weather tantrums?  I really don't know how I feel but I empathize with it. I understand it's struggles. However, cant it just stay sunny for a few minutes longer? I mean it can still be windy a...

Yes!!!  The three letter word  seems like a very short word but it has so much power and carries a lot of impact. An answer to sometimes questions that were never asked. Someone told me I reminded them of a famous TV producer and my talent for saying NO with so much clarity when anything fun is mentioned. I knew they didn't get me, I just knew exactly what I didn't want, thank you very much.  "And what is wrong with spending the whole weekend indoors" (those were my thoughts in 2019, that is before we all had to stay indoors).  In order to prove everyone wrong that I don't know how to have fun, I decided to say yes to everything I was asked the next day.  Comes the next day Someone suddenly asks "Would you like to move to Australia?" I answered "Yes" Quite proud of myself that I answered and there is nothing else that will happen. I will go back home to South Africa and my life will continue after all, how many people can poss...